Adam Blatner

“To think: I did all that…” a fragment from Frank Sinatra’s theme song, My Way. A little of this—maybe 7 – 12%—is good. More begins to become sort of “narcis-sistic.” Less is too deferential. More is tiresome for others; 20% is annoying; and if you toot your own horn at 30% or more you become obnoxious! This fits my thinking that there are optimal amounts for many—perhaps almost all—qualities. How much courtesy becomes cloying and self-defeating? Maybe it depends on an unconscious assessment on the social network. If you’re among robbers, you don’t want to show how generous you are. Things are changing in my thoughts. What were compelling attractions often lose their power of attraction, become less important