Folks used to think that communications were simple. I say X you understand X. Then we realized that to communicate well, the sender must be clear\u2014from whence came editors, spell-check, revisions, etc. And the receiver should be educated. And\/or the sender must calibrate vocabulary etc. to the level of the receiver if the goal is effectiveness. But this was all print-based. Feedback was not in the system. It\u2019s like teaching people that what counts in shooting is aiming and taking wind etc. into consideration.<\/p>\n
But when long range artillery came into existence, what was needed was feedback and adjustments. Aiming at really long distances was not possible\u2014not even by the most expert marksman. What you needed in the system was a spotter with a spyglass or binoculars. Looking at where the first shell fell, he would call out, \u201cMove a bit to the right.\u201d The gunner would and try again. \u201cNow up and to the left half that amount. Try again.\u201d In artillery this process was called \u201cbracketing.\u201d In a wider sense, the name of the general category that works with feedback, re-calibration, and trying again process is \u201ccybernetics.\u201d<\/p>\n
So what if we applied that to ordinary communications? Not I say x you understand x. Well, occasionally that happens, but not often. Instead, this: I say x you say do you mean x\u2019 and I say x(elaborated) which is not exactly what you said but closer in this way and further and that; then you think about my feedback and revise: \u201cAha, you mean X\u201d? And I say, \u201cCloser, my friend, you are getting closer. And then I try again, just give a few more cues: \u201cX+ this nuance.\u201d And you try again, and I am very patient, correcting you, as we go back and forth, each time closer, until I say, \u201cAh, I feel you understand me now.\u201d<\/p>\n
Then later in the conversation you say something and you don\u2019t feel I\u2019ve understood it. I beg your pardon and ask you to try to work with me patiently. I say what I heard, you correct it, I try to get your meaning, and we go back and forth until you feel that I do indeed get your meaning, or at least closely enough for the purposes of our conversation.<\/p>\n
Cybernetic conversation recognizes the truth of a funny sign I saw many years ago that said, \u201cI know you believe you understand what you think I am saying, but I am not sure that what you hear is what I mean.\u201d This brings intellectual humility into the system. It\u2019s not always the receiver; often the sender is less than crystal clear. What for sure needs to get out of the way is the prideful illusion that either of us has done a perfect job and it\u2019s the \u201cfault\u201d of the other.<\/p>\n
In summary, we need to radically revise what is actually an early but pervasive 20th century illusion that if we just \u201ctry,\u201d what I say can be understood accurately. Instead, we need to check and revise, check and revise, and assume that the first or even second pass is at best a fair approximation; at worst, it can be quite misleading\u2014and this operates throughout the culture. Understanding a more realistic, cybernetic nature of communication and developing the skills for using this approach is thus part of consciousness-expansion.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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