We\u2019re reading together or apart a number of books, as I browse the local library and check out those that appeal to me. One was titled, A Graceful Goodbye: a New Outlook on Death,\u201d by Susan B. Mercer. I\u2019ve written about weddings as rites of passage, and she wr0te enlighteningly about dying. She asks many question that it might not occur to me to ask, and gets me to thinking, what would I want for myself? Also I ask what would my wife or kids want? It\u2019s a good consciousness-raising group of questions, and represents questions that were not asked before. One just went along with tradition.<\/p>\n
\u201cTradition!\u201d sings Tevya in the late1960’s play, Fiddler on the Roof<\/em>. But we live in an era of blossoming, a multiplication of traditions, a creation of new traditions. It could be seen as the breakdown of tradition, but that only means the breakdown of the fixity, the inviolability of traditions.<\/p>\n New traditions break out! And variations! Some will wither and die, others will take root, and a few will multiply. Memes, large and small, new words, new ways of doing things\u2014all are thriving! We live in an era when the slope of progress in every field is increasing, speeding up! What stress, what a privilege\u2014I guess if you\u2019re a conservative, it\u2019s hell. But it\u2019s inevitable!<\/p>\n I\u2019ve lived through an acceleration of eventfulness, occasioned by the cross-fertilization of technologies. Was the Cambrian \u201cexplosion\u201d of new forms a half-billion years ago analogous? There\u2019s nothing I personally can do about it, for or against\u2014it\u2019s way bigger than myself. I can call people\u2019s attention to it, though\u2014a speeding up of the advance of consciousness.<\/p>\n Indeed, that\u2019s one thing I can do: Announce it, re-phrase it, call attention to it, and \u201cit\u201d being a whole mess o\u2019 things. First of all, I notice that I hardly notice all the ways that things are speeding up in so many arenas that I don\u2019t know about, or hardly. Then, of the many fields that I do know about\u2014and I\u2019m relatively widely read\u2014well, changes are accelerating! Watch for them!<\/p>\n Back to the book review. (That was a reminder of the ways my mind works). Funerals. (Here I go again!) But Mercer\u2019s new book introduces a new inter-denominati0nal role, a \u201cdeath doula.\u201d I was a bit of a birth doula, a knowledgeable facilitator of the birth and after process. There are so very many things to know about. Well, Mercer knows about all the changes accompanying death!<\/p>\n It\u2019s a great idea for our time, when a proper funeral was managed by one\u2019s \u201cmini-ster\u201d in a proper church. No more\u2014all rituals are breaking down. I even wrote about it on my website. Now it\u2019s sort-of official\u2014a book got written. Is that how it works? All bets are off for \u201chow it\u2019s done,\u201d that\u2019s the real message. It\u2019s a layered message, though: \u201cAll bets are off\u201d collide with, \u201cWell, how are we going to do it? We can do it this way or that way. Your preference.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cMy preference?? Over-choice!!\u201d That\u2019s why it\u2019s new. Freedom moves beyond politics and invades choices about weddings, funerals, dress, manners in general. It\u2019s a time of accelerating change! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" We\u2019re reading together or apart a number of books, as I browse the local library and check out those that appeal to me. One was titled, A Graceful Goodbye: a New Outlook on Death,\u201d by Susan B. Mercer. I\u2019ve written about weddings as rites of passage, and she wr0te enlighteningly about dying. She asks many […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[43,16,15,13,6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2967","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-action-explorations","category-papers","category-favoritethings","category-spirituality-and-philosophy","category-wisdom-ing"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2967"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2967"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2967\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2968,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2967\/revisions\/2968"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2967"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2967"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2967"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}