Have you noticed? Other people let you down, clearly because they don\u2019t care for you enough to really try! But this is mistaken often because: (1) we believe they should try. (The idea that they don\u2019t care is too far to be considered a possibility). Or maybe (2) they are trying but can\u2019t (the idea that they\u2019re not as practiced, skilled, talented, just doesn\u2019t occur to you). Or (3) they\u2019re not in your league, haven\u2019t had practice, haven\u2019t had access to practice, even though they\u2019re your age
Or: (4) they\u2019re not interested. They should care even though they don\u2019t. Or (5) they\u2019re distracted by more pressing things that are relevant to their own existence. Or (6) etc.<\/p>\n
Whatever: they are blameworthy. Tease-worthy. Less conscious is the feeling that you\u2019re trying and they \u201cshould\u201d try as hard as you. They\u2019re betraying you! Letting you down! The idea that they don\u2019t care as much as you do doesn\u2019t enter your mind: It\u2019s unthinkable! If you are willing to recognize this as egocentric, you may. It\u2019s an almost universal condition of childhood.<\/p>\n
Other people should care. (Is this at all true? I question it!) It never occurred to you that your whole annoyance \u201ccomplex\u201d of thoughts might be yours. These thoughts seem to reveal the true nature of reality. All this denies that maybe they’re really not as smart as you, not by half, even though they sometimes make more money and look like wise old men, curious, enthusiastic, successful, and so forth.
For example, speaking for myself, it just never occurred to me that my colleagues, doctors, medical school classmates, are nowhere near as passionate and interested as I was. Or perhaps they weren\u2019t curious about the same things! However, since then I\u2019ve thought about it and realized that it\u2019s 93% projection!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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