It may take a century or more before even a moderate number of people become moderately psychologically-minded. Freud set this back a few decades, I fear. But even if Freud didn\u2019t give people excuses to hate the machinations of the mind as viewed through his distorted lens, people would still avoid looking at their own minds because it\u2019s just too messy. I am hoping to make just a dent in this avoidance by offering a more user-friendly language based on a more neutral unit, the role. More about this is on my website.<\/p>\n
Basically, I argue that we need language that\u2019s not so shaming, a language of psychology and interpersonal relationships that\u2019s more neutral. Most psychological language or sets of terms tend to imply that you\u2019d be more \u201ctogether\u201d if you weren\u2019t so \u201cmessed up.\u201d That\u2019s shaming! It tends to shut people down, turn them off. Instead, we need language of psychology that is more supportive, more encouraging that everyone can grow, refine, and focus their role playing. Everyone can expand or trim their repertoire. I keep doing it and I\u2019m in my upper 70s.<\/p>\n
What if it becomes a norm for psycho-social maturation to continue through to dying. Each lesson is a new phase, and vice versa. More, there\u2019s no \u201cright\u201d way to learn, to do it, and there are no \u201cexams\u201d\u2014because there\u2019s no one who knows whether you\u2019ve done it right. Even your guardian angels\u2014let\u2019s say you have some, as does everyone\u2014don\u2019t know. You played it as you could play it given what you knew.<\/p>\n
Maybe there\u2019s a little give, a little edge where you could reach, but who talks that way? We\u2019re just emerging from bad and good, reward and punishment. This has been a dominant world-view, so the whole species is evolving towards integrating greater nuance into their evolving paradigms. It takes time. The angels know this. They try to prod you to think, but people can only go so fast and so far and then it\u2019s overload. So they\u2019re very, very understanding and forgiving.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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