{"id":1951,"date":"2015-03-13T19:35:05","date_gmt":"2015-03-14T03:35:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/?p=1951"},"modified":"2015-03-13T19:35:05","modified_gmt":"2015-03-14T03:35:05","slug":"make-new-friends-but-keep-the-old","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/?p=1951","title":{"rendered":"&ldquo;Make New Friends but Keep the Old&rdquo;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I used to sing the above as a simple song, a round, in fact. A camp song:   <br \/>&#160;&#160; Make new friends, but keep the old:    <br \/>&#160;&#160; One is silver and the other gold.    <br \/>Is it true anymore? I wondered recently. Or does it depend on reciprocity. When I learned this little tune, I had no idea how much I&#8217;d move, evolve, start new relationships, grow older, experience more complexity. Can I &quot;keep the old&quot; any more? There are so many people, hundreds! Were they actually friends, or friendly acquaintances? How to draw the boundary?<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps a better question was how much do they want to keep in touch with me? That was sobering. People\u2019s lives fill up. So I sent out an email to people on the edge with deep respect. I thought, \u201cIf I hear from some of you, well, then. If not, I\u2019ll erase them from my mailing list because, as Fritz Perls says, &quot;nothing to be done.&quot; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I used to sing the above as a simple song, a round, in fact. A camp song: &#160;&#160; Make new friends, but keep the old: &#160;&#160; One is silver and the other gold. Is it true anymore? I wondered recently. Or does it depend on reciprocity. When I learned this little tune, I had no [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[24,32],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1951","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-autobiographical","category-social-depth-psychology-sociometry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1951"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1951"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1951\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1952,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1951\/revisions\/1952"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1951"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1951"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1951"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}