I recently read an email advocating the virtues of love of humanity and a quote from Albert Einstein about the ultimate unity of life. I agree, being a person of my time, subject to the idealistic paradigms of what civilization seemed to be reaching for. Yet it also stimulated in me a contemplation of why this ideal is not deeply accepted and enacted:<\/p>\n
It occurred to me that our circle of caring has been expanding in the last century, but only gradually, in fits and starts. For much of the world, we-versus-they is the norm, and it’s an archetypal norm. These ideas are partly influence by my contemplations as I prepare a lecture on the history of Africa, and also I have been taking a class on the history of the Dutch peoples\u2014all as part of the program of the Senior University Georgetown, a lifelong learning program for seniors.<\/p>\n
In these classes I am reminded of the tendency of sub-groups to struggle, of humanity to quarrel, at every level from the international to the inter-familial. My tentative conclusion is that it takes a great deal of knowledge, maturation, and motivation in many different ways to make peace. It requires that we transcend our innate us-versus-them tendency, which in psychoanalytic thought is called "splitting."<\/p>\n
It begins with the recognition of the fact as clear as day to us as children: It doesn\u2019t seem fair how difficult life is, and how that seems so very unfair. Note the word \u201cseem,\u201d for that suggests the play of illusion. We don\u2019t want it to be difficult, and that converts into believing that it should not be difficult\u2014since the world should be the way we want it to be. We project our frustrated desire out onto the world. Obviously (to us as young children, with young children\u2019s minds), this unfairness is caused by our parents, mainly; maybe also by siblings and a few others. Life would be rosy if they had not imposed arbitrary restrictions. Or so it seems. (The reality of course is that \u201cfairness\u201d is a human construct, is profoundly elusive and relative, and has little to do with actuality.) <\/p>\n
As our species becomes aware of its own tendencies of mind\u2014as it became aware of the prevalence of \u201cgerms\u201d a century ago\u2014only gradually will humans become aware that the perception of the \u201cunfairness\u201d of the world is to some varying degree a "projection" of our own anger at the world because it is indeed complex and demanding. Our sense that we are in conflict with the world is a displacement of our denial of our own resistance to reality! It\u2019s as if we fully believe it when we say to ourselves, \u201cOh no, I’m a nice person, not angry. I just resent being a victim of all those hostile others!\u201d<\/p>\n
This is okay for a young child, of course—it’s normal childish egocentricity. However, people tend to carry it beyond childhood, disguised of course. (We wouldn\u2019t want others to accuse us of being childish, now, would we?) These attitudes are\u2014in disguised form\u2014carried into our later childhood or beyond, into our teens or adulthood. That is to say, such attitudes are essentially immature, but it\u2019s hard to see this because they are disguised and rationalized.<\/p>\n
Nor are these displacements of the frustrations of life an innocent quirk. When acted out by adults, we may witness the most horrible forms of genocide, and this has happened a number of times in the last century! The underlying attitude is: \u201cWe\u2019re good and we\u2019re just trying to get rid of them, and what happens to them is their own fault for being so \u201cbad,\u201d so we don\u2019t have to feel sorry for them.\u201d<\/p>\n
This is my analysis of the ways people treat each other terribly, and my thought is that it\u2019s time we integrate our awareness of depth psychology in everyday life, just as we\u2019ve woven in awareness of germ contamination in our general programs of purification of water and preparation of food. Basic mental hygiene follows physical hygiene by about a century.<\/p>\n
To restate, much of the worst that humans do to each other and to other creatures in the world might well be this kind of acting out. We need to could use more knowledge of psychology, sociology, basic principles, along with many other kinds of knowledge. The culture as a whole needs to continue to struggle against its own base motivations.<\/p>\n
Freud\u2019s theory about the \u201cdeath instinct\u201d was a considerable overshoot. Yes, some people want it all to \u201cjust go away,\u201d but I think most want things to just be non-problematic. It\u2019s more inertia, laziness of mind, an entitlement to wanting things to be nice. If we imagine death to be one end of the spectrum, it\u2019s more the points in-between, a tendency to want the world to be simple, manageable, non-demanding, etc. It reflects the childish fantasy that denies that life is hard and difficult. Saying it another way, there\u2019s a built in instinct is to be stupid, by which word I define as a neurotic compromise of believing that one is "all growed up" while at the same time able to enjoy the privileges and prerogatives of early childhood, to be taken care of while at ease, free to play and fantasize. Humans do this, act it out, and commercials and demagogues play to it.<\/p>\n
One way to play to this basic tendency toward stupidity is to make all the troubles externalized, scapegoat some group, class, others—poor people, certain races or groups, the wealthy, other nations, germs, etc. It’s all their fault, not our own. Ah, we feel clean.<\/p>\n
Getting beyond this childish mode of thinking is true maturity and forms the basis for a more sophisticated notion of civilization. At a meta-level, it\u2019s not easy to take on this more mature attitude without being crushed by guilt for daring to want what\u2019s really foolish. Understanding that everyone wants this may relieve the guilt somewhat. The wisest approach is a balance of self-forgiveness and yet a firm resolve to take conscious responsibility. It\u2019s not really more difficult than learning to ride a bicycle\u2014it\u2019s just a mental balancing act. We\u2019ll get there more easily when it\u2019s clear what the challenge is about, everyone faces it, and it\u2019s not so bad once you get used to it. (It\u2019s like using privies rather than pooping in the bushes, and then later on inventing toilets and sewer systems.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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