{"id":1550,"date":"2013-11-29T18:18:42","date_gmt":"2013-11-30T02:18:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/?p=1550"},"modified":"2013-11-29T18:18:42","modified_gmt":"2013-11-30T02:18:42","slug":"attraction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/?p=1550","title":{"rendered":"Attraction"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>People are attracted to each other. There are scores of cues, and other factors. Does this person remind me of a favorite parent or relative that I bonded with? Or perhaps seems like the opposite of one that I despised? There are other factors, too, such as the degree to which I bought into or rebelled unconsciously against the biases of family and group&#8212;is the one who attracts me like or radically (refreshingly?) different from that group? There are many factors that symbolize grace, class, sexuality, down-home helpfulness, and so forth. What attracts one is not what attracts another. Here is an example, from a February 5, 2005 New Yorker cover.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/newyorksextel2705.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" title=\"newyorksextel2705\" style=\"border-top: 0px; border-right: 0px; background-image: none; border-bottom: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-left: 0px; border-left: 0px; display: inline; padding-right: 0px\" border=\"0\" alt=\"newyorksextel2705\" src=\"http:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/newyorksextel2705_thumb.jpg\" width=\"500\" height=\"720\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>The thing represented only once&#8212;between the tall woman sitting to the right of the little child and her teddy and the short man sitting at the middle left with his suitcase&#8212;is the reality of mutual rapport&#8212;or what Moreno called \u201ctele.\u201d The glance that is met with interest! How magical, when it works. Songs are sung: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.lyricsfreak.com\/f\/frank+sinatra\/strangers+in+the+night_20056148.html\">Strangers in the night\u2026 a glance away<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Jacob L. Moreno, M.D., a genius who developed many innovations, also developed a method, \u201c<a href=\"http:\/\/www.blatner.com\/adam\/pdntbk\/sociomnotes.htm\">sociometry<\/a>,\u201d that made such implicit dynamics more explicit, to the point of charting them. I\u2019d like to see this method, and the theory of social psychology behind it, become far more recognized in the world. Many people don\u2019t know about this dynamic&#8212;not explicitly&#8212;though everyone relates to it rather deeply.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>People are attracted to each other. There are scores of cues, and other factors. Does this person remind me of a favorite parent or relative that I bonded with? Or perhaps seems like the opposite of one that I despised? There are other factors, too, such as the degree to which I bought into or [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,11,26,32],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1550","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psychodrama","category-literacy","category-psychology","category-social-depth-psychology-sociometry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1550"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1550"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1550\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1551,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1550\/revisions\/1551"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1550"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1550"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blatner.com\/adam\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1550"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}